I'm not going to speculate why others didn't reply because I think that's unfair to them. Perhaps some are timid of revealing their story and perhaps some just haven't experienced such abuse. Either way, I think it's a bit unfair.

As for changing it so it's recognized, well, it sounds easier than it is, which is simply that the views of men and women have to be changed. Boys and girls are usually socialized differently, with boys being given more freedom while girls are taught to be more dependent or have adults intervene for the girl for a situation yet wouldn't for a boy. So the entire social views and how people are socialized as they age would have to change.

At the very least though, if the childhood socialization views aren't changed, then the adult views should be changed, although they'll be harder to change since they've been instilled longer. However, I say that both men and women adult's views should change because even for the women that are abused, very few report. I don't have the exact numbers for how many report as adults because it varies by age along with the violent acts. For example, according to Statistics Canada in 2006, 8% men were beaten up by women in the last 5 years whereas 19% of women were beaten up by men in the last 5 years. 81% of women were shoved by men in the last 5 years compared to 48% for men. The list goes on but it's clear that on every item, women received more damage (except for forced sex because there was no information available from men but for women it was 19%). For younger people, Statistics Canada Violence Against Women Survey of 1993 found that 51% of women under 16 years old were physically or sexually abused at least once. For dating young people, DeKeseredy and Kelly (1993) found that 35% of females and 17% of males were physically abused at least once. So all this evidence and more I think convinces the average person that women are abused a lot more than men, and due to the historical oppression of women, this is still present and widely believed. Unfortunately, since it's mostly a patriarchical country we live in (North America), if men are abused, then they're even more ashamed to admit it.

These social views extend also into the legal system. According to Brown (2004) (I'll get the exact name of the study if you wish), in severe injury cases, women were found guilty 22% of the time while men were found guilty 71% of the time. You hit the nail on the head in the beginning and Brown agrees, in that there were so few women convicted because the male victims were unwilling to testify. This is evidence to me of the social views.

Anyways, changing the social views is very difficult and it is on-going thanks to the rise in feminism but it's not one that's easy to change. The legal perspective is influenced because jurors are pretty much random people who are likely influenced. There are current laws in place already in Canada and the US regarding that both sexes should be treated fairly and equally but it's not really obeyed.

Perhaps they may but if other men can read the stories, then that may also serve as a deterrent.

If you want, the field of forensic psychology relating to violence, domestic abuse, rape/sexual assault and so forth is interesting and if you want, I can give you some studies regarding it, how victims and suspects are assessed, etc... .

The only problem may be that to view the articles you may need special access. For me I have it through the university I currently attend but things like Google scholar may give you the entire article.