Sometimes in our families, we are taught certain ways of asking for things. I was taught over the years that it wasn't worth asking for what I wanted because I wasn't going to get it anyway. Had to learn to overcome that.
In other families, they teach to use sort of a "passive-aggressive" way of asking for things.
SWA 1971 doesn't have any friends yet, according to her profile. Perhaps she wants friends but the way she knows how to ask is to ask in a p-a way.
We can certainly help her to learn to ask in another way by being her friend and teaching her a more loving way to ask for what she wants.
(((((((((((( SWA 1971 ))))))))))))))