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SWA 1971 · Dec 17, 2009, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Elysium

I really don't think this is about any body being a jerk.

Obviously we all support SWA 1971 and are available to listen, offer suggestions, or just offer some hugs. But there are also different types and levels of support. Some people choose to take a less enabling route to support.

I see this as a cry for support, yes....but I don't necessarily feel it is the most appropriate way to request said support. This type of post often leads to frustration for the supporters and the people looking for support.

These responses may have been a bit terse but I see it more as tough love.

SWA...I have felt unworthy of friendship and support as well. I have felt like the only way I could get attention was by acting out. I have acted out for attention before as well. What I have learned from this behavior is it generally puts more stress on the people who want to be here for you which can, in the long run, cause them to want to shy away from you instead.

Maybe, when you feel this way and need to express it, you can try to rephrase it and come right out and say that you are feeling unworthy. I think it would be less frustrating for everyone...including you.

I do think though that if you are going to act out, then you shouldn't be surprised if some people become irritated and respond as they have.

SWA...I hope you can hear this as supportive and know that we're not against you.

Thank you, Elysium.