Hi Prozac,

The first question I ask, is......what kind of help is your wife getting to feel better about herself?

Before you make the transcontinental leap, she must help herself before you make an investment like that emotionally.......afterall, you must look after yourself as well.

Strangely, and I have no idea if this has any relevance.......but after 16 years of dealing with BPD and being relatively successful at doing it, I have recently been dx with Aspergers after much nutting out of symptoms.......your children, how long have you known of the Autism dx and what help are they receiving? Has your wife been tested for Aspergers or High Functioning Autism?

My sincere apologies if I sound like I am prying.......I tend to see "lines" in things.......to make myself feel better, I call it "deductive reasoning"

I also wonder what kind of support you are receiving through this?

The flipside, please also feel free to pick my brain.......

Take good care Prozac.......know that you are doing all that you can, you are a good man and father, and you are loved

Keep talking and let us know how you go......

In stillness,

Michah