While I don't suffer from this I used to have flashbacks during sex that would make me bawl in the middle and ruin it for weeks. I could not do certain positions because it would cause flashbacks and I had to see a T to talk about it.

I do think you are on the right track though. Realizing that there is a problem and that there is something you can do about it is half the battle. I think it's awesome that you can talk about it openly and come here to ask for advice - a lot of people don't even get THAT far.

These things just take time. Having someone who can be supportive and understanding makes it a lot easier. Mine came through in dreams and, even though the abusive relationship only lasted about 6 months, it took about 4 years to get over it. I had horrible nightmares that would change slowly over time and eventually, in my dream, I took that man out! That was the last dream I ever had about him and virtually all my symptoms went away.

Each person deals with mental and emotional trauma differently. I'm sure you will find the most effective way to combat this and you will get better. Just remember that it's not you - it's never you. Keep away that guilt I know we all feel from time to time and it will get easier. I promise. ::::::HUGS::::::