I understand that when you are with someone the past is the past, but it is hard to not take that into consideration. Even though my boyfriend has changed A LOT in the past year it is still hard for me to not think about past times when he overreacts a little.

This being said I think it is important to work on yourself before being in a committed relationship. I think a lot of times infidelity, especially when its a consistent pattern, isn't with the other person, it's with ourselves. It's some kind of lack of security or confidence that forces us to seek out approval in others. I know that when I was in my late teens I had a bad streak of seeking attention from older men and flaunting myself because I wasn't happy with myself. Now that I am more confident and more self-respecting, I can't act like that anymore. I actually find it disgusting when I think about how I used to be.

It sounds like you're on that path. Like you don't want anything to do with that man you were in the past which is a good thing. The only person who can change you is yourself. You have to find those qualities in yourself that you aren't happy with and change them. Once you learn to love yourself it will be easy to love someone else. And I'm sure if/when you meet someone special again they will be able to see that.

I'm sorry about your relationship with your daughter. I went for a couple years without talking to my father because he had cheated on my step-mom and hit her the night she found out. After a while I realized it wasn't my duty to "fix" him and I should love him for who he is. I have found ways to let go of those things from the past but that took a while. Hopefully your daughter can see that and you two can rebuild your relationship. Good luck with everything and welcome to PC!