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Originally Posted by amdorsch
Wow you really know exactly what to say! That type of OCD really does sound cumbersome...how long have you been working through it? I wanted to thank you so much for your advice, it really means a lot that someone takes me seriously and can offer advice other then "suck it up bite your tongue." I really appreciate you taking the time to respond. If you ever need to talk about anything you always have a friend on here!
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Thanks amdorsch! I'm glad I could help.
I've been in therapy for about 5 1/2 months.. I'm working on more than OCD, though, so my progress has been somewhat slow as I move from one issue to another. But things are getting better!
It just takes time.
You know, I was thinking about this some more the other day and I think your lying has something to do with a lack of clear identity. You say you feel like you don't have anything interesting to say if you don't lie. Well, trying not to lie and tracking it and rewarding good behavior will work to help you change, but won't give you interesting things to talk about. I'm working on my sense of self to help me feel more comfortable around people and having conversations. I think you need to work on your sense of self, too.. is that right? Are you doing interesting things? Are you living the life you want to live? Are you living up to your values? Do you know what you value?
My therapist is helping me define some of these things for myself. A therapist might help you, too. If you can't afford therapy, there's this great self-help book called "Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life." It is really fantastic and some of the chapters really help you define what you want out of life.. It's based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, which is my therapist's style and works really well for me.
Just a suggestion... hope this helps!