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Old Dec 18, 2009, 05:22 PM
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(((Timeisback)))

I know how you feel in alot of respects as to where did the good man go I married,I am still married and have bee hoping for that "man"to return we have been seperated for 4 years almost now and he has had a girlfriend a little more than a year so I can't give the greatest advice.
Although I do have 4 sons grown from my first marriage who turned out to be wonderful,respectful,law abiding young men and their dad and I divorced when the youngest was 9.I believe because we remained very good friends and his temper changed dramaticaly after we divorced he was a contolling tyrant to his sons never me while married but did a 360 after.
My dilema to divorce him(1st one) was difficult took a few years since he treated me very very good but I had to realize he treated his own children so badly emotionally had I stayed for me they surely would have been damaged.
And as years went on I came to realize with him in essance by being as he was with them he was controlling me in a round about way too....
I truly believe you will do good by your son if you can somehow get the courage up to go .I went to my psychologist and did alot of talking with my kids who all assured me they were fine by it.My kids have commented for years too how they believe too that things that happened and our divorce was for the best and also are fortunate how well we all get along and have .

Of course my second husband is a whole other issue but at least no children are involved ...if there were though...in my eyes Children should always come first and know it....

Kacey
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