For me, therapy is a very vulnerable, tender time and that vulnerability certainly used to extend to even talking about therapy with others as well. I still do sometimes think I need therapy for therapy, so I talk, but I'm a little better and more secure with my process.

I also think that I used to be a little afraid of something actually being "wrong" with my therapy. Maybe this guy is hurting me, maybe we are way off course and I'm wasting all this money, maybe I shouldn't be in therapy at all - it's just all in my head and I should just snap out of it. You name it, I thought it.

If my experience is at all generalizable to others, then I can see how the stage would be set for grandstanding, defensiveness, and misunderstanding.

But in the end, Good lord, we are all in this together and whatever moves us down the path to healing has got to be the right thing for us.

I do think some of those paths are common, but some of them are exquisitely unique to the individual and their therapist.