thanks artist but actually I wasn't talking about the sexual aspect of marriage per say but more the intimacy of a relationship. but yes I suppose sex does play a part in intimacy too. but you know just like the just cuddling part of it or more foreplay of it....intimacy in general I guess...we have been married 3 yrs but together for 8. I am 48 he is 52 but this started about 5 yrs ago....never though has he ever ever been a communicator. when I do try to talk to him about anything at all all I get is yep or ok .