I need some input. Below is the letter I gave to my friend. It's been 4 days now and other than her sending me a message that she would think about things and get back to me I haven't heard a thing from her. Maybe it's just me but if a friend wrote me a letter expressing herself about how she felt and it was not good then I would contact her and make it a priority to talk things over. I wouldn't expect my friend to sit and wait and wonder and hurt. I was holding back tears when I delivered it so she knows I am really hurt, I am dissapointed and could use some input and support here.
Just a clue, my friend is alot like myself. We think and feel alot of the same things so keep that in mind if you are trying to "figure her out".
Thanks,
Heidu

Betty,
I am not sure what to say but something feels very wrong and I feel like I am losing my best friend.

It has always gone like this. I meet someone and things are good, I have a great friend that I enjoy being with a lot and then for some reason they pull away and are too busy and eventually we don’t talk anymore. I don’t want that to happen. Normally I just let it go because I don’t understand and figure they don’t want to be with me and don’t want to tell me why.

You are the best friend I have ever had. I don’t want to lose you as a friend. It’s not a big secret that I need you because you are a good friend and a good support for me. I don’t have a lot of people who understood or cared for me like you did. You saved my life. You spent time with me when I was at my worst.

I also enjoy spending time with you because I like who you are. You are honest and kind and we think and feel a lot alike. You make me laugh when sometimes I just want to cry. You’re smart and funny and sweet. I like those things in a friend. You have a good heart and I have never met anyone like you. You’re special.

When summer started you were working more and busy and I understood that but summer has turned to fall and winter is coming and we never see each other. I have tried to bring it up a couple of times that I missed you and that I was concerned that we weren’t hanging out but you just said you were busy so I don’t know what to say.

Part of me is hurt because maybe you don’t want to hang around with me anymore. We used to have our little chats in the evening a couple times a week after the kids went to bed and although it was short it meant a lot to me. It was nice to be with you and it really the only time I get out of the house or get to talk to anyone besides Bjørn.

I am afraid that maybe I talk to much and you are sick of listening to me or tired of what I am saying because I talk about my life which isn’t so great. I am trying really hard to make things better and to not be so depressed and so upset. It’s hard but I am trying. I sometimes don’t see the point because I end up having no one to share my good days or good moods with.

I am afraid that maybe you are sick of talking English with me and I apologize for that. I have been thinking a lot about that. I think that I have lost so much of “me” and I am alone a lot. When I am with someone I need to express myself and be myself and I can’t do that in norsk. I realize that is selfish and I apologize.

I am disappointed because I thought you wanted and needed me as a friend and it seems that maybe you don’t. I can’t believe that in 5 months you have only had a couple of moments to spend with me and I think if you wanted to you could find the time. I have never expected a day or hours or that we had to go out. Just hanging out with you at your house was great for me whatever we were doing or talking about. Like we used to do.

I wonder if maybe you are hurting and that’s why you are pulling away but I would hope that if you were you would talk to me about it. Tell me what’s hurting you. You have always been there for me and I would like to think that you know I am there for you too. I can only be that if you let me.

I don’t have a lot of good things here and not a lot of really nice moments but the best times have always been with you. The only time I really really felt cared about was by you. You have always made me feel like I mattered. All the times I have thought about leaving Norway the one thing that makes me want to stay is you. My best friend. Now I feel like I am losing that and I don’t understand.

I keep trying to think what happened. Did I do something, say something? Was it something I didn’t do?
It’s felt kind of uncomfortable when we have seen each other the last few times. I felt like maybe you were uncomfortable.
Please tell me what’s gone wrong and I will make it right. I miss you and I want to be friends again.



When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.- Alexander Graham Bell