(((((((You guys)))))))) It doesn't have to be the same thing even if it turns out thatyou also get depressed. all too often we thingk that because we have the same problem that a parent does, we ARE that parent. We aren't. I'm not a drunk. I'm not a contriól freak like my mom, and I don't chase my kids around with a razor strop just because I have my father's eyes, my mom's trouble with weight, and my grandma's nitro temperament. You'll see what is happening. You'll have a better chance at getting help, and you'll know in what ways your kids will need you. It's never an all or nothing deal, dears. Just the fact that you're here means that you take this seriously. True love for the kids you in some cases don't even have yet. But it's love none the less. Huggs. You are wonderfull.