Hey GyGuy

This is a tough one, huh. My ex and I still get tangled up in our old emotions. We keep things friendly, he had an affair and walked out only to realise afterward that he'd made a big mistake. He wanted back in, but there had been too much damage done. He has since had a few relationships with others, but he still comes turning to me when things go wrong in his life. I have not had a relationship since he left, but I won't resume anything physical with him either. The emotions are still there on both sides to a certain extent; For me, its different though. I care about him, and I still very much love the memory of the man I married, but its no longer him. I have a familial feeling toward him still, he fathered my children, that fact will never change.

So maybe i can understand how your wife is feeling. You don't just lose that connection that you shared with someone for so long; you probably still do occupy an important place in her psyche. The difference is woman can maintain an emotional connection without it being sexual. Men work less this way. To you that closeness easily seeks a physcial representation; And it probably always will, so long as you stay close to her. It it is too hard for you, stop. If she is reasonable, she will understand. And once someone else fills that space in your heart, you will probably find you no longer have that inclination toward your ex wife.

This will be easier for your ex than for you; Time to take care of yourself, and move on. Sounds like she already has.