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Originally Posted by TheByzantine
One of the hardest things for me to accept was having to concede I needed help. All therapists are not equally effective. Therapy is a cooperative venture. Find one you are comfortable with -- even if you have to try several. Ask the therapist what you can expect from him or her. Ask the therapist what he or she expects from you. You have to be open and honest. If you do not think the therapy is going well, say so. A good result will be achieved only if both of you make therapy work.
Good luck.
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I agree with TheByzantine. Over 34 years of therapy, I have met "good" ones and "bads" ones. All that means is that they either match your style or they don't. My style was highly self-motivated. I would seek out answers to questions I had in books and then sometimes the therapists would provide insights to me that would open the subject up further. But that was just me. If you are burdened with questions about specificly difficult behavior patterns that you have that you have no answers for, then a straight on direct approach with a therapist may be the best approach for you. It is highly individual.
My first therapiist (God help her) hardly every spoke three words during the entire hour we were together. But she listened to me talk. But when she did talk, it mattered. I guess that was the point.
Most people here will tell you that seeking out a T (therapist) will tell you it's a difficult process that takes time. You have to find the right fit. But it's worth the time spent.