My trigger person is my husband, not going to leave him, around him whenever he is not working. It seems that what triggers me is that he can sap my good day- I am being productive and my meds are working, he gets up and is upset about clearing the 4" of snow off the driveway and huffs and puffs about it. I understand that he has to work later and this makes him tired, but when I suggest something he doesn't reply. Two years ago we made a deal with the landlady- he would clear the driveway, we would get $ off our rent for each storm. This year she increased how much she would pay. I am all tied up- I have time to do this work because I don't work, but I can't because of my physical condition. Should I just deal with how it makes me feel and just accept that he does this chore grudgingly? Or should I discuss with him about doing something else (let our landlady hire someone else).

My OK day has now been turned into frustration- I am triggered to feel sorry for my health, I am triggered to feel that I'm not a good wife, etc...