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In the past we did different thing to let alters find safety in therapy.
1.we invited alters to just watch how a therapy session went. this allowed them to see if it was safe to talk remember most alters were punished if they said the wrong thing to the wrong person.
2.let the alters journal what they want to talk about to the T. This will give them a chance to know that T is able to accept them.
3.talk with alters find out what hey need to be safe. to KNOW that they be safe. With the children it was a safety bag. this bag had items that each alter chose to feel safe. weather it be a stuffie, blanket, or fun games.
4. best of all do you have a person that all feel safe with. take that person with you.this will give not only the insecure ones security but let the protectors a chance to stand down and deal with their own trama.
5. ask to do phone conferencing this allows for part to have therapy in the safety of their homes. let them get to know the T then gradually move them into same room therapy.
6. online chats help alters to learn to share and know that they are safe from past abusers.This is our saving grace. We are able to be in safe place and know that no one hurt us.we be by fire and a big room so if someone comes near us we have people make them go away. If we no safe with them.
7. by talking and working you will be able to find ways to help each other heal. Listen to yourselfs they are scared but want to heal to find their fears then find ways to help them not to be afraid no more.
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Sometimes the only way to find freedom is to fight for it, even unto death! Because no form of abuse transcends pass it! To live free and with hope is still the greatest gift of life!- anderson .gif "Boy Angel")
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