THIS is what helps me so much with my boys. They have their own "little boy" point of view, and things like wandering around the knitting store looking at yarn (their worst torture) or being trapped at a siblings game for too long just suck for them. When I can remember that, it's easier to either guide them into better behavior or to accept how they are.

I don't know about you, but a fear of being judged by other people used to be HUGE for me and it would make me lose my temper in situations where I'd be fine otherwise. ESPECIALLY when my middle son (with autism) was 2, 3, 4, and 5...you would not BELIEVE the dirty looks I got. When I learned to let my fear of being judged go, I was able to become a more relaxed mom.

I think it is AWESOME that you recognized that you were triggered, that you realized that they were just in a boring situation, and you handled it the best you could.

As for bringing up your therapy idea with ftt - my T always says that WE know what we need to heal. I think that if you feel drawn to doing something more "active" or with role playing or whatever, then that must be what you NEED to do.

Lots of to you. You are doing such a good job