Stepping forward from the first post, it is hard to explain, he talks about the days "we" retire and how he has managed our finances so retirement should not be a struggle, I guess that is a sign on a whole we are "together", and we just get uptight easier, and that I see is most likely due to the pressures of caring for our aged moms, always running errands and stuff for my mom and and very little for my mother-in-law, she is so independent, doing so much still by herself. I admire her for it, she is a very inspiring lady.
I guess the pressures of being caregivers, while our time is being robbed from us for others, is putting on stress. I hear this is common amongst us middle aged "children", being the "parents" now to our parents, and so close to just finishing raising our own kids. I'm sure many of you can relate to this new role in our lives. And not having co-operation with our siblings in this creates an underlying resentment, that we never come out and say anything, if so very little, but I know my husband resents the same as I do, him resenting my one brother more than I resent his sister's conveniant distance to be of help to her mom, see him and I live close to our moms so, we are "the ones" who do the most. Oh well, if I live that long I pray my one and only child will look after me when needed, but I doubt it, ha!ha! Oh well, I can dream, eh?
Whats good we do have good talks and get along, but when the bickering begins it is weird. Ever notice men hear us different than other woman do? Like if their listening skills are underdeveloped or the men just tune us out, that gets me more flustered, ha!ha!
Ever notice, they can complete your sentences before you even finished it, and usually they insert the wrong thing? Grrrrrr! That kind of interuptions, irk me, and I find that the begining of a controlling husband, I know there is more to a controlling husband, but that may be a sign, seeking for power.
This was funny, one day a former friend from Italy said, "being married over time gets more like a brother/sister relationship ", her and I laughed.
I'm sure this sort of stuff has been a topic or experience all or many couples have dealt with through history, even caveman/cavewoman days, and that often survived. I guess we will too, we have been through a lot together, losing loved ones, low money, even lost our jobs when a company we worked for went bust. Poor timeing, I finally waited to have a baby and the job loss occured during my first 6 months and right after we finally were able to buy our first home. Long story short, we survived it all and more.
I guess last nite I posted this during an hour of frustration and PMS, can change a ladie's moods besides being mildly bipolar, ha!ha! Medication can do so much, but things can hamper the full effect when added stress is around, ha!ha!
There is a positive side to this, my husband and I can laugh about most of our bickering a few hours later or the next day or 2, that's a good sign, right?
Well, y'all have a peaceful day, fill it with laughter

Love to all,
DE