I've long suspected that quite a few paradoxes center on what we "need" to do. For openers, I submit that if we really needed to do it we'd already be doing it -- so there would appear to be something we need even more than we need to do whatever it is that we're not doing. Resisting doing it would seem to be a way, possibly a maladaptive one, of addressing that need. How's this for an example: I need to shine my shoes but even more than that, I need to show you that you can't make me shine them.