i am an adult of very controlling parents so maybe this will give you a bit of a different perspective as i've reacted somewhat similarly to your daughter. i would definitely cease all the expensive presents. i hate to say this but it sounds a bit as if you are trying to buy her love. she may feel like you are trying to obligate her into a relationship with her by giving these expensive gifts. instead, i think it'd be great if you started a conversation with her and asked her if something is bothering her about your relationship. my mom can be a real smother mother and it drives me crazy. she has never tried to talk to me about our relationship. ever. it's sad. rather than being direct and talking about things she will do things to try to force me (passive aggressively of course) to have interaction with her. it is extremely difficult for me to ever say no to my mom because she has such a hard time tolerating it and gives me guilt trips as a result. so, i distance. not physically but emotionally. her guilt trips have really set me up for a lot of dysfunctional behavior i'm now trying to unlearn and it isn't fun and i'm not young either. when a child doesn't have the freedom to express their displeasure to a parent's wishes it really messes things up. i don't know if any of this applies to your relationship with your daughter but it just might. i would not assume there is no problem. i hope you will talk to her. i don't know if your daughter has any struggles with depression but if she does than that is a good indicator she may be angry about something.