Hugs

It does sound to me like you should not be contemplating marriage with either of these guys as you are quite confused at the moment. Marriage is a serious thing and needs to come from the right reasons and you need to be sure.

You do not need to marry your daughter's Father in order for your daughter to have a relationship with him and it does not sound like he would be a good influence anyway.

Also you do not sound like you are inlove with the other guy. If he is worth it, he will still be there for you when and if you are ready.