Darrel, this was just an article that she wrote for a local newspaper and she had to keep it under so many words. It's in no way complete. I could add a bit to it, too, but I think it needs to be taken on face value at first. All it is, is "milk." The "meat" comes after you've internalized the "milk."

I've read your comments on it twice and I'm still not sure if I understand everything you've said. I'll give it a few more readings and see what I come up with.

Keep in mind that the level we are working at is at the bottom of the scale. It's a slow process. We need to take a first step, then a second step and so on. They need to be "baby steps." We need to zero in on ourselves an our own perspectives first before we include too many people as we apply what we've learned from the wisdom and proven success of this article. Remember, the woman has a Doctorate in psychology. I also know her personally. I can count on the fingers of one hand where she made some mistakes in my therapy. I need to keep in mind that she is as human as I am, but not as prone to the same mistakes as I am because of all her knowledge and practise of it.

I wish she had included "constructive criticism" in the article, though. She did teach me to not react to them before I gave them thought. It's proven a valuable tool to me. I let the smarting go away and then I pick apart the criticism. If there is any truth in it, then I strive to change that aspect of me if I can. That, to me is staying in the Self and empowering. I become the best "me" that I can. It's a continuous work.

Forgive me, but I still feel that you need to focus on just you and the changes you want to make in yourself rather than worry about "society" and how you can impact it. It won't be a positive impact until you know better who you are and achieve some of those changes that you want to make.

There is, however, something to be said about getting involved in one specific issue like I did with Grandparent Visitation. As angry as some parents made me with their selfishness and power trips, including my daughter, I learned that the parents have the final say after all. I learned a whole lot more but I don't need to go through that again, except to say that I did learn a lot from that experience.

BTW, did you read what I wrote on my website? You never said. The conclusion I came to was to post all the alternatives as well as the opposing view and I let the grandparents decide for themselves what it is they want to do. I no longer get involved personally.