This certainly is a lot to take in for you and I think it's probbaly a very deep issue for you, even if you don't realize it. I think you should call or email your pdoc about this and see if they have suggestions.

I think you have two concrete optoins. Meet him or don't. Both are options and ultimately it is your decision to make. He obviously thinks your daughter is a good person and I suspect you will get along with him wonderfully.

I do think he is going to have some hard questions for you to answer and if you aren't ready for this -- say so.

The big question is "Why did you give [him] up for adoption?" I think you need to be as honest as possible with him. It will end up being easier for you both.

Other than that big question, I can't see too many difficult questions being thrown at you. Afterall, you really have no relationship with him (yet?).

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide.