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Dec 22, 2009, 09:22 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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 Now I'm really confused!!
I read your post and I've been thinking on it for a bit which is why I hadn't responded yet. But....Bloom's post about what you said in your older posts about abortion and/or not knowing what is real or what isn't just flipped me over.
So....if you can just clarify....you do, or do not have an actual child?
I would love to say it didn't make a difference, but it seems like the child is the issue that keeps your relationship with both of these two men in limbo...so it does actually matter.
I do think that a child's welfare should always come first, and I agree with those above that state that maybe now's not the best time to be planning/thinking about a marriage. Let yourself get your head on straight first. And please....DON'T go and marry anyone just because you want your child to have a father/father figure. My sperm donor married my Mother because he thought it was the "responsible" thing to do because they both decided to not practice safe sex and she got pregnant. We were all miserable for 15 year until it finally ended with my sperm donor trying to kill me which pushed my Mother into a bitter divorce. I am now estranged from both my parents.
Put your daughter first. If there is a daughter.
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