When does anger go from being a normal, everyday emotion to a problem? I ask because I feel I used to have an anger problem. Getting mad over the littlest things that didn't really matter. Now I'm starting to see that maybe my boyfriend acts the same way I used to (I acted this way before we got together).

Big things like being short on money or worried about grades doesn't phase him one bit. But man if you try and play Super Mario, you better put in some ear plugs and have an extra controller around for when he karate chops it. I think this guy could break his leg and laugh about it but if he burns dinner he cusses for an hour about it. I can make a joke one day that he laughs at and the next day I could make the same joke and get screamed at.

One day we were marking flags to put on his experimental plots and he said to mark them on both sides. I did it once and said "you can see the marking from the other side so maybe you should just put it on one?" and he says "yeah whatever...it's your ****ing project isn't it?" and gave me the silent treatment for like an hour.

It's just so hard to predict how he will react to anything. He started on Prozac and he has been better but it seems like now that it's been a few months he is starting to revert back to how he was before. Like he is building up a tolerance. Which is expected; but his doc bumped up the dosage and he took it for about a week and felt wiped out and couldn't handle that much - was sleeping all the time, had no motivation etc...

I just don't know how to ask him about it. I feel like every time he gets angry it makes me feel like an idiot because usually he's getting mad at something I messed up on. I feel like it's making me lower than him. I never had a problem with it before because I just fought back and it would be done but now I'm trying to keep myself calmer and not flip out but can't seem to calm him down.

What does this sound like? I can't figure out if it's just him being controlling so he gets mad when stuff doesn't go his way? Or if it's an anger problem? An anxiety problem?