It sounds like he has some control issues, which may very well go along with depression and/or anxiety, but he is still responsible for his own behavior, and if it is a problem for you or making life uncomfortable, unhappy, or scary for you, then you are well within your rights to address the problem or to decide whether or not you want to stay in the relationship. Medication makes symptoms easier to deal with. They don't change attitudes and problematic behaviors. Therapy is much more effective for understanding anger and how to manage it.
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- Is your mate irritated, upset, or angry with you often, sometimes several times a week or more? Are they upset with you even though you had no intention of upsetting them? Are you often times surprised by their anger or sudden outburst? Is their anger directed at 'you' or something they say 'you' did or didn't do? Does he blame 'you' for his outrage, anger, or upset? Does he deny to you his being angry or upset? Do you find yourself questioning everything you do as you do it, lest it angers him?
- Does he refuse to discuss any upsetting issues with you, or accuse you of trying to start an argument if you bring them up? Do you feel that the issues that arise are never resolved? Do you feel uneasy, unhappy, depressed, or edgy because of these unresolved issues?
- Does he frequently misunderstand your intentions? Do you end up feeling perplexed and frustrated at his misconstruing your every action?
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