Your situation is so similar to mine. I got a job overseas about a year ago and my boyfriend was unable to find work for the first 6 months we were here. He started to get very depressed and even though he has a good job now he is still really really down. I feel so guilty because I am the reason we are here but I have worked very hard to get where I am in my job and I am loving the work here. I am also unsure that simply moving will solve the problem as I feel that while moving OS may have started things, the depression is much deeper now (but I have told him that I will leave if he wants). My contract finishes at the end of next year - and although we do plan to go home then - I can't imagine watching him like this for another year. He has admitted that he is depressed - but will not seek professional help and is not very good at talking about his feelings with me either. I have said that I am always here for him - but apart from that I don't know what to do. I feel so helpless. It really helps me to read your story because I know I am not alone.