before we were married my husband & I dated for a year. Out of nowhere he dumped me. I was devastated. A year later he came back, professing his love for me - BUT then went on to tell me that he dumped me for his former mistress (with whom he was in constant contact with while he was with me). I wigged out! then became completely obsessed with trying to find out anything & everything I could about this woman. I tried and tried to have him talk to me, tell me their story, but he refused, said it was none of my business. So I continue to try to find out why???? We fight all the time sometimes it gets abusive.

I went on and married him anyway. I think for my ego and not the right reasons. Christmas is especially hard for me because he dumped me on Thanksgiving and brought her here for Christmas. I am so deeply depressed and ruining yet another holiday. I can't get the thought of him and her out of my mind. Can this relationship be saved?