i think it's harmful because a T cannot have a dual role. it seems you want increased social interaction with this T and you are trying to get that by "consulting" with him. it is harmful for a patient to have a social role with a T because the boundaries can get blurred. the T can lose their objectivity and hurt you. there are a number of people in this forum who have had Ts overstep what is appropriate behavior and they have been very hurt by their Ts. we don't want to see that happen to you. how about a better option of working on where you can find social interaction that would be healthy for you?