Well just suppose he did say yes to the meds consultation, and then later after that, said he could no longer meet with you on these social get-togethers because he doesn't meet socially with his patients, how would that feel to you then? You can't have it both ways.

It seem to me your "friend" has the best part of this already and should stop trying to mess up a good thing that they already feel good about.

And you know my story about when a professional thing turns personal, I wouldn't wish anyone to go through the pain I went through because of this.

You say he keeps his professional boundaries, but you have never seen him as a patient, so you really don't know that either.

If he is part of the APA, it is against the rules to him to treat those who he has socialized with, ex: (drinking of alcohol, visiting museums, having dinner with, attending conferences with, etc.)

I think this friend of yours needs to be happy with what interactions she has with this guy, as seeking more than this could cause ALL interactions to stop because it could ruin the social type relationship you have with him and make it awkward for him to even want to do that.