greenleaves, a number of people have posted in this forum, since i've been here less than a year, that they have had Ts come onto them or slept with a T and it never, ever ends well for the client. since you (you've said it's you in some posts already) have a crush on this pdoc you would automatically be vulnerable with him if he was the slightest bit inappropriate in any way. he could be inappropriate in emotional or verbal ways--it doesn't have to just be sexual. we care about you and don't want to see you get hurt. that is why so many are recommending strongly that you not pursue this. there is a book that talks about women and their Ts you might find interesting and it talks all about having romantic feelings for them. it's in session: the bond between women and their therapists. it seems to be out of print but you can probably have your local library obtain a copy to borrow. here's an excerpt from the book called drawing boundaries that i think explains well the concerns we have for you. please take gentle care of yourself greenleaves.