Here's my 2 ...

I agree that it's important to have one's own boundaries in place, etc., so that, inter alia, one does not lose themselves to the point of self-destruction in pursuing their endeavors, (like I tend to do ), or perhaps, inadvertantly, curtail anothers' growth, but I believe, ultimately, it is what gives a person 'meaning' to his/her own life that is the most important thing in the quest to satisfy the needs of one's spirit, and, hopefully, the expression, (and, therefore, healing), of one's innermost being, (which would include the ultimate healing of one's damaged, inner child or dragon). I also believe that the ways to meaning can be DIFFERENT for each individual, and still be no less valid..

That 'meaning' can come from different sources for different people, but to believe that one is living a life with no meaning, (essentially in an existential vacuum), is the surest way to finding oneself with feelings of utter desolation and hopelessness.

The 2nd best book I ever read is 'Man's Search For Meaning' by Victor Frankl. He talks a lot about how there is meaning in the pursuit of rectifying social injustice, in raising a family, in contemplative pursuits/self-enlightenment, or in caring or being a moral/physical support for others, etc.. Likewise, there can also be found profound 'meaning,' (and dare I say 'elegance'), in the way in which one endures his or her own suffering.

Again, in a sense then, it can be said that each person may find his/her own 'way to healing' through finding their own 'way to meaning,' and there's nothing wrong with these 'ways' being different, (depending, for example, on each individual's own inherent nature or proclivities).

Viewed from this perspective, I don't see either of your views as being at odds with one another.

What thinkest thou (plural)?

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