Thank you for the replies, everyone. I made the post in January...it's now August...Well I'm finally educating myself about emotional abuse and it seems like a good start. The emotionally abusive relationship is the name of the book...I hope my spouse will be able to read it (as a substitute for couples' therapy, which can be detrimental to the relationship when there is emotional abuse involved - a few sources have mentioned this!) That's it for now. Thanks for the support