Hi BH- I wanted to explain something about the not enjoying play thing I wrote. It looks like I wasnt clear and explained it in a misleading way. OK- Its not that I dont enjoy play as enjoyment, its that I dont play because I am so busy with what I have to do keeping everything under control and done with them in the house, that I dont have the time or energy for it. If I did, say if I had a live-in house staff that cooked, cleaned, did laundry, fed, bathed, discliplined, did homework, broke up arguments, chauffered to and from school and after school lessons, grocery shopped, clothing shopped, went to meetings for special services for my d, fund raised at school, paid personal and business bills, arrange Christmas vacation entertainment for my kids and entertain sleepover guests, all while carrying around my 2 yo, THEN Id be free to enjoy playing with them. I could make more time, let some things go and try not to worry about them, but no one is picking up the slack for me and its all waiting for me when Im done playing Its not that I dont enjoy play, its that I feel overwhelmed and dont let things go and just dont go and play.

Well, now, that said, Im sleeping in tomorrow and I can only hope everyone else does, too! I'll play in my sleep.....

You didnt hijack, BH, I hope you, too, can find a way to do things differently than your mom, especially that you see clearly the toll it takes on your body and can shorten your lifespan. Maybe with my mother, the waqy she was shortened her lifespan as well. I have always suspected that.