(((((Dream))))) I am SO proud of you and I see so much growth. You accomplished a lot by not playing the game with your mother. It is the goal of every mother to want their children healthy, independent and taking care of their own needs, unless you are a narcissistic mother and what your child needs is secondary to what you need.

You did an amazing job taking of yourself and seeing the situation as it really is and seeing your mother as she really is. They call narcissistic mothers emotional vampires, I had one, too, they will suck the life out of you in this manipulative way to get you to do what they want you to do. But you have a new "mother" to re-mother you. Maybe spending time with your mother is such a sharp contrast to the kind of care you get with T, like a hug without expecting anything in return.

I know that intense anger and sadness toward who your mother is. What is a little frightening is how she was actually always this way and I spent my chilhood jumping thorugh her hoops not knowing what was going on. Sad for my little girl