Ho dear... I agree with the above. This is not a 'white lie' in my book either. This is a lie. And therefore your mistrust is rightly placed... The fact that you are engaged makes it harder I would assume. Try to have an honest discussion. I am not sure why a 45 engaged man would have a 19 year old call him. There is 'friendly' with people and 'no boundaries friendly...'. If you think your relationship is strong then an honest discussion will help but if there are deeper issues - better examin them now x all the best !! xx