You are right, it is not about the food. You have every right to be angry...maybe it is about anger. I take it healthy anger was not something you were taught how to express? You sound very kind and giving...like me and most people here. I am going to be really direct here... This girl and the contractor who stay safe under your roof... They both seem like users. Users learn how to size people like us up and then proceed to use us up. You are renting out rooms, you are not a door mat but a human being. Betcha if you checked out these people's backrounds, you would be concerned... Please be careful. And that ham incident, a small test perhaps to see how far she could go. Ball's in your court... Good luck.