Don't take this wrong, but why is it her job to call about your lisence or look for job openings? This is your profession and your job; you really can't be upset with her for not doing things for you YOUR way. If this is an expectation you have, then write down specifically what information you want her to get for you. Do not expect her to just figure it out. She probably doesn't really have a clue exactly what you need unless she is in the same profession. Personally, I'd be telling my husband to take control of that aspect of his life on his own. I wouldn't dream of expecting my husband to delve into the job-finding aspect of my own profession.

You are in a new country. Have you worked at making a life of mutuality together? Found places to go out? Churches if that's your vein? Friends? That's what you need to be doing together. Work on building those things together. Sounds like that is what she needs if she's spending a lot of time talking to friends. She's lonely. Shutting yourself down around her is not going to help. Open up and do things TOGETHER, and I'm not talking about finding you a job.