How did you two communicate while dating? Did she actively listen to you and provide support? How did you coordinate the move to a new country together? When did her not meeting your needs start to become apparent? Have you asked her what she sees her role as your wife is? Build from there... I have read about a lot of different marriages on here and have seen them work or not work... Everything from arranged marriages to couples who grew up together. Expectations varied widely, more than I ever could have imagined. But when talking to the long timers, they say the same thing. Your a team now, you both have to figure out what works for you two as a couple... Marriages are built over lifetimes, they are living growing things. You have to work at them to make it work. Some discussions are very difficult but communications need to stay open but shutting her out or vice versa won't get you want to be. keep posting. I hope this place can be of great support right now. You seem so disappointed with your new wife.