thanks for all your replies. I have been trying to get thru this on my own, thru self-help books, etc., but none seem to work. Everyone can give advice, but the truth lies in him. He is the only one who has the answers, yet he will not share with me. So my self esteem has gone down the drain thinking she's better than me, prettier, sexier, etc. Yet I have seen her and she's NOT! And to make it even better she has moved into an apartment right down the street from us, so now I dread the day of coming face to face with her - it's inevitable. And then I wonder, will those old feelings come back to my husband.