Everyone above gave great advice, I just wanted you to know that you don't have to be with an abuser. You sound like you are doing better yourself. Just try to take care of you and your boys. Maybe, and that's a big if, if he's changed, he will continue to show you he's changed without you having to "give in" to anything and accept him back before you've seen any true proof.

And NF's is right, great title.