ripley-----Interesting what you wrote because I've been thinking was I raised or just born this way?....... I don't have vivid memories of how I was raised. But I do sense growing up my "wishes, needs or feelings" were never validated. I was only to always "obey", period... Being the last of four kids seems instead of being "spoiled" I was everyone's beating post...And to top that off mama really wasn't that thrilled with having "another baby"... Guess there was lots of tension in our household...and having another bundle of joy wasn't exactly in their plans......

So maybe it is both, I was raised to be compliant and born with passive genes? I do know to resist being compliant would end up being physically painful so being compliant may have been my means of "survival" in an unpredictable environment..

Am sorry your needs, feelings and wishes were not validated when you were growing up.........