Rapunzel....still not sure why I flipped over the ham.. Maybe I am trying too hard to figure it out.. Maybe it will come to me when I let go...

Pomegranate.... Love your nic because I love Pomegranates... Funny story about my mum... She was visiting and she was trying to eat a pomegranate. She had never had any before so what she did was scrape out all the seeds and threw them away and put the shell on a plate. She asked me how do you eat this thing. Had to explain to her that she tossed away the part you eat and she laughed and we all laughed...

InsignificantOther.... I do think you are right as I feel she took "advantage" of me. But then I told her I did not eat ham and maybe she just thought since I didn't eat ham that it was pretty much up for grabs...... I like ham and eggs or potato and ham soup.. And not often because I don't like eating a lot of meat. Getting closer and closer to being a vegetarian in my older years..........

Nuckingfutz... think you are right as this having to do more with "anger" than the "food".. And no I was not taught "healthy anger". Not even sure if I was/am aloud to be angry.. I don't think she is a user. I think she just helped herself. Have had no problems with her whatsoever since she has moved in. Just think this may have been a misunderstanding.......She really is a sweet girl........ As for really understanding why I was so upset over the ham, I am still not sure the reason.. Anger, feeling like I was taken advantage of very well could be part of it.

As for the "contractor"... He is the one to keep an eye on. I don't trust him one bit.. Guess there isn't anything left in OUR garage for him to sell to pay his rent.. And AJ's dad is pretty unhappy about the situation with this "contractor"....... Soooooo is good I am not dealing with this as my son's dad is.... wipes brow..... Thinking he won't be living here much longer... He had the nerve to "hit" on the 22 year old female tenant.. He is 45 or 47.. Her boyfriend was not all that happy either....

Thanks everyone for helping me out on this. I was so confused and I did not understand why I was so upset........ Everyone has helped me a lot.... Thank you all so much...........