I am sorry you are going thru all this. Have you tried sitting down and talking to him about this? One thing to remember....alot of married people have agreements about such things as this. I know I have had that talk with my husband on more than one occassion. don't cut off communication or kick him out of your life until you talk to him and maybe put yourself in his shoes. I am not defending him but give him a chance to explain. when would he have time?