I think it would be helpful to remember that marriage is about learning. Learning who your partner is (in a way you did not know when you were dating as marriage does put a new frame on things and new expectations - both yours and hers) and who you are (even for only it being a new situation). It also means learning about relationships, what you like, when to say enough, what things to overlook, what you nurture and what is worth arguing about.

Saying that - you in your baby steps of that learning - in the very beginning (only 5 months married) - so take it easy. Sit back. Relax. Enjoy your bride. You married her because you love her (I am guessing..?) so cherish what you have.

I find that some of us deal differently with things when they are our completely. When there is no chase. When ther is you two forever. It can be scarry. It can be boring. But I think its important to remember your feelings. It is also important to remember that none of us (including you) is perfect. And the fact that your wife married you does not mean she will answer each and every need or expectation you may have. This comes back to relaxing. Just sit back and enjoy what you have and focus on dealing with the changes in your life in a way that benefits you.

I somehow get the feeling that your family is very demanding. I dont know if I am right?? Some times when we are in a serious intimate relationship stuff from our past crop up - it may be useful to look at this.

And one last thing - keeping quiet about things that upset you is not bad if you can truely live and let go. But if you use your silence as punishment or as a 'boiling time' till you explode - NO. You will have to find another way of dealing with this. Sometimes a very simple, practicle solution is just there. For example - if you would like her to cook more - why not set up a romantic evening together and cook together then have a candle light dinner. Or come to an arrangement that you cook 4 days of the week and she cooks 3. In my house - I cook very rarely. My finace does all the cooking and I cook the odd meal. But I do most of the washing up and the laundary and we share other house work. He loves cooking and I love washing up (yes..) so it works. You just need to find your way. Good luck!!