This thread isn't intended to put men down or bad mouth them at all.

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Since the age of 3 years old I have been abused and/or mistreated by men physically, emotionally, and sexually.

I am now an adult and do not trust men. I am 110% heterosexual but I am still very scared of men and cannot relax when I am around them. I fear that I will never have a boyfriend or get married...etc because of it.

Sometimes I do not trust men in general or I target men that come across as "nice" and allow myself to feel safe in their company. Only later to find out that the trust I placed in these "nice men" was misplaced.

I am scared to death that I will get in a relationship with someone just like my dad. He abused my Mom and cheated on her, abused me and my brother, was an alcoholic, liar, manipulater...etc.

Is there a set of rules that you can go by to tell if a man is genuinely nice and caring...etc? So far I have found none.