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Originally Posted by reader1587
it happens to others too. i am part-asian (my father was from china) but it is more my mother who doesn't let anyone go…i'm too embarrassed to say how old i am (i have lived and worked independently at times but i wind up back at "home")
she's european catholic, so also an unfortunate feature that can result from extremely family-oriented cultures
but sometimes i think people from backgrounds like ours can be less affected by certain extreme behaviors that are common in hyperindividualistic cultures
so you have to accept yourself and your family for what it is, and focus on whatever solutions you can come up with for the specific problems that you have to face--which is what everyone has to do, ultimately
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this kind of family background is good at least it hold me together as an individual who know how to be polite during a certain time and rude in other LOL...
i have 2 faces or more... ppl never able to read my real feeling... except my parents who i cracked my mask 2 years ago, showing me who i really am.. because i had enough w them... if im not happy i show them im not hapy... which ifeel better later... but... again dad start yelling his lungs all time ...
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A Shocking News: It seems to me that being a daughter or better a female have no value in the society I'm Living in.
What shocked me on 4 Jan 2010 hurt me so badly that now there will have nothing to stop me from leaving this Earth.
I used to think that I created the story of parents hating me, but it finally confirm on 4 Jan 2010.
I get to know it from the neighbour, he was told by my dad that I am a girl which eventually will marry and leave the home, so whatever things also he wont inherit it to me. (I'm fine with it, but what sadden me was this is how my dad think, and my mum agrees with it)
I hold my tears until i reached home, showed tantrum and slammed the door, and was questioned by my dad. But i can't tell the truth, because i know what he capable of doing.
I cried and cried, praying to god to end my life, or let me straight jackpot, and so i can offically leave this home without them looking down on me.. just because i am a Female, a Daughter, A Sister.
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I fear soon i become the abuser myself... I fear of not able to control myself and repeat the footstep of those abusing me I used to think of marriage and have my own family, but now I fear i will abuse my own child.. and choose not to have child... why let them suffer when i know how it feel....
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