Not long ago I starting IM'ing w/ a young guy who I met through a general message board. Pretty quickly I realized someone was different about him, because he talked of feeling that he was alien. We began talking on the phone and he told me that a man was telling him things to ask me. I was confused, but not frightened.

He told me the man wanted to speak to me. I said that would be fine and my friend then told me to not be frightened because the man would have a different voice. I said ok, and his alter began to speak to me. I was amazed at how it sounded like a total different person.

The alter was the dominate personality and told me that he controls my friend. I became confrontational and told him to leave. Bad idea. The more I told him to leave my friend alone, etc the less he let my friend talk to me. The conv was LONG and intense. I ended up hanging up on the alter, after telling him I would if he didn't let me talk to my friend.

The next day I did research (I originally thought he was schizophrenic) and through more research realized he probably has DID.

I spoke to my friend and told him I would treat both him and the alter the same (he asked me how I was planning on dealing with the situation) and later I spoke to both him and the alter. I apologized to the alter and he seemed to be satisfied.

The last few days my friend has been very tired, but he told me that the alter hasn't returned. Realistically, I know the alter will eventually return.

I would like any advice on how to proceed with this relationship, as I won't be meeting him anytime soon, if ever. (I am in a relationship)

Thanks.