Agree with GEM... There's so many things you can do to grow closer to your mother. A major thing that would make your mom feel better, I imagine, would be to help her clean up around the house without her having to ask you to. Often times mothers are the primary "house keepers" and rarely have much help around the house as far as cleaning and cooking goes. She'd be estatic to have some help around the house without having to ask for it.

Maybe you could write her a letter? At one time, me and my mom weren't very close... I was going through the "terrible teens" stage and pushed her away from me. Then I got to where I missed my mama and wanted a relationship with her. So I wrote her a long letter, explaining how I felt in detail and what I wanted as far as having a relationship with my mother. In the letter I told her how much I loved her, apologized for how I had been acting, and hoped we could get our close relationship back. And we have. We're very close now...

My mom came down with double phnemonia (sp?) a few months back and we thought she wasn't going to make it. Was in the hospital hooked up to all these IV's and machines and it hurt me so bad to see her like that. I vowed at that moment if my mother lived, I'd make sure she knew I loved her everyday. Not a day goes by that I don't tell my mother I love her and give her a big hug and thank her for everything she does for me. So please remember, your mother won't be here forever... Love her and RESPECT her while she's still here.