My BF of one year and I work together in his medium-size business. It is the best job, but I think it is ruining our relationship. I have to use his computer email & calendar daily. In the beginning it had all those old phone numbers and dates with girls in it, etc. He has had a lot of girlfriends (he's divorced 12 years) and I don't like seeing their names (and at first their old messages - he finally went in and removed those after I said something).

He also has tried to show me pictures of his kids in the past, etc, but there would be these other girls in them and I just didn't like it and told him I would rather not see them. He says I shouldn't be jealous, that everyone has exes and they are just pictures. But it seems like he was being very insensitive. After all, I was his girlfriend before we decided to work together. You would think he would have tried to shield me somewhat from some of this stuff. I admit I may be too sensitive about some of these issues. The problem is I am unsure of when I am being too sensitive and when I should let things go.

Up until last week he still had his and his ex-wifes' plaque they got when they were first married hanging beside his front door (you know those ones that say House of -------, founded -----). He had mentioned that it was "time to take it down" and so I asked him, NICELY, to do so and he got mad and said why does this stuff upset me and then he said he never wanted to see it again and threw it and broke it! I am wondering why he got so mad. What is going on? He says I am trying to "erase his life".

The next day he told me that he left the plaque up to stick it to his ex, and that removing it made him think a lot of bad thoughts and he was up all night crying and thinking about everything. He has since removed a lot of the old stuff and is doing his part to make me feel more at home. He came to a Christmas party at my house and met my entire family!

I know I need to do my part and extend trust to him. But now it is harder than ever. Now he says he walks on eggs around me and I feel like I never know when the next painful surprise is going to occur.

We are in our 40s, we both have baggage, kids and trust issues. Is this worth the trouble? Will getting a different job help? I am so tired of feeling upset.